Friday, March 26, 2010

“Flash Friends” - The Dark Truth

Disclaimer: I truly believe that there is something called Good Friend and think that I do have few :) (Btw thinking doesn’t mean that one is right..its more of a perception )


How many times you meet a colleague, a room mate , a batch mate with whom you can connect …and how many times this acquaintance of yours end up being your friend,
Well….. the throughput for me is very less coz I am very choosy …..but still there are few instances ..I am human after all!!!!!!!

I am not going to talk about how two people become friends that is too trivial for me to write. I know your time is precious if not mine :) So to cut it short … You and the acquaintance of yours becomes “Flash Friends” and the honey moon period starts……
You share your GF’s/BF’s between you (well not literally ;)) ..You enjoy your drinks with him/her (especially if bill is not being paid by you)..You always want to go out with that person (Just because his GF is quite hot and that is only chance you have to interact with her …Bad ..Very Bad.. :):)) …You start believing (in every lie he/she tells you) …
You feel blessed!!!!

Resembling?????

And then the so called “Flash Friend” of yours goes out of your life..Reasons ..mmmm
God doesn’t want to see you Happy :):)
Well nothing like that ..New Job…College Over…Marriage…Onsite.. are few which I can think of

Then there is a futile attempt of being in touch via phone….but sooner rather than later even this also ends as your “Flash Friend” is either too busy ( what the hell !! every body seems to be busy when you need them the most …..)..or has got new “Flash Friends”….or too busy in his/her married life… or just doesn’t want to talk to you ( common… ppl can get bored of you, after all you are not the most charming/smartest soul on earth :) )
You end up being alone suddenly and sometime it hurts ….coz ..there is no one to empathize with you …your emotional distress call goes unanswered…your advice seeking call goes unanswered…your request for a new laptop/iPod at lower price from abroad goes unanswered ..Gosh this one hurts the most ..I tell you :D
Needless to say that there is no follow up call also ..wondering how people can be busy for months…sometime even years …

So what to do now ……….
WTF dude!!!!…..Life never Stops ...People change….what’s wrong with it .. ‘Change is the only constant’ ..accept it!!!!!
Stop being emotional fool… Move on ..Move over ..Push aside rather than being a pushover …Still not feeling good… Buy that Laptop/Ipod of yours ....will hurt your pocket a bit :(….but it will make you Happy and there is no price tag for Happiness……
Through with it.…Good for you …

Your gone “Flash Friend” is like a Dormant bank account….not active but still there …Don’t delete them from your Orkut, Face Book after all head count matters ;)

Few months down the line.. want to touch base with your old “Flash Friend” again ……You are such a loser man!!! Do whatever you want to do.!!!!

What’s the point in wasting your time/energy for those pricks ??
No Second attempt here :)

TGIF…Time for Beer with new “Flash Friends”…..
Would be back with 3rd one…………….

PS : I "think" even I have been a “Flash Friend” to many ….

10 comments:

  1. hummmm!! well lot has been spoken!! and lot has been heard!!! but believe my dear, there is difference between Good Friend & Flash Friend!!! i feel you have mixed these two!!!
    It is just matter of time that you need to reconnect with your old folks.... I think, one cannot be out of sync with a good friend.... even if you talk to each other after years!! 10 years may be!! pesonal experience!!
    Ya, going apart hurts..... but that also brings the joy of meeting again!!!

    so in simple words..... Kabhi alvida na kehana!!!!!

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  2. Hi Yogi, I like the term 'flash friend'.. you have improved a lot in putting your thoughts across (compared to your previous blog)..!!

    However, what options someone has for not being a "Flash' to anyone in his/her so called 'fast moving' life?

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  3. @Pravin ..Thanks for your feedback...but to answer you ..One cannot be busy for a indefinite period of time..as I have also written this in my blog also .....one thing which pisses me the most is "No Followup"

    "Needless to say that there is no follow up call also ..wondering how people can be busy for months…sometime even years …"

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  4. Another straightforward and close to controversy consignment :)
    The advice is difficult to be followed--but sometimes ignoring can be a golden rule to a happy life.

    Keep pouring more..
    Cheers

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  5. I am waiting for your thoughts on the 'typical Friday night boozing'... hope you would put down your words soon on this...

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  6. Well, great post Yogi...Everyone has their own thought , including me. I guess, almost everyone has ups and downs in friendship, after all, all relationships must have its own problems, hang-ups and challenges in order to make it pure and strong.

    Some joys are better explained in silence, as a smile gets more audible than laughter... so move on & enjoy life : )

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  7. hmmm......Even I had FFs.......actually too many......and I don't know y they become so boring / uninteresting in just few days...........but then when I get to hear abt them later say...2yrs.....I wonder...I feel...oh no...what happened between us......y are we not doin the chitter chatter.......I am confused!!!!! n according 2 u I am a loser..

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  8. Right... I can recall few flashes myself. :)

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  9. So true...
    And let me tell you that this flash friendship ends for ever only after you get married...so stop all the gyaan and get married. afterall your age also counts... :)

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  10. Love the post..
    Seriously, even I often wonder, howcome someone can be so damn busy for so long that they can't even take out time just to say a simple little Hi.. C'on, when someone really wants to be in touch, they anyway manage to be in touch no matter how busy their schedule is.. I usually find the "busy" excuse the most lame one.. How can you leave a friend behind with whom u actually spent your crucial turnin points of life- be it ur roomie or whatever..

    But anyway, who cares.. people love to move on and on some rare occasion, take the old album out and be nostalgic .. what's the use, i don't understand.. Stilll everyone is happy.. and that's what count i believe !.. Blah !!

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