Keep Distance!!!

“ Rabathey haadh se baadah jaaye tu gham miltey hai,
Yahi soch..har shaks se hum kum miltey hai”

Deciphering it in simplest words means that - As we get closer with people there are chances of getting hurt thus try not to get up close and personal with people.

I know few of you might have already started sulking …What this guy wants to convey??
First he wrote a silly stuff on how valuable the second chance is totally negating the thrill/exuberance/joy of first experience , then he raises question on friendship , then he went on to explain calculated love and how to keep your self happy/satisfied with ‘Something’ when the whole world is after ‘Everything’ and now a lesson on keeping distance!!!

Come on dude…how defensive/narrow/pragmatic one can become?

Personally speaking getting hurt is not a bad thing if you know how to get out of that feeling!! Sadly most of us have no idea about it. And once hurt we keep on digging the wounds, thus making ourselves more miserable.

Let’s start with workplace where we spend a reasonable part of our day. We try to build a niche for us by gelling with people we like. We go together for coffee breaks/lunches. We do gossiping and most of the times help each other in work also. But sometimes unwanted thing happens and everything goes haywire.
Like appraisals, you get good rating and your friend/colleague just gets an average one. With no fault of yours, you can feel the discomfort/dissatisfaction affecting your relationship. You can sense the change in behavior. Your friend will start mixing with the people who got the same rating thus ignoring your company (may be to share his/her feelings towards their manager :) ) . One of my friends calls it CSR (Community of Same Raters) syndrome. It can also happen that your friend finds another person with whom he can relate more than you, same language for instance. People feel more comfortable when they get a chance to interact in their regional language thus giving no regards to your presence even though they know that it’s Greek and Latin for you. Or it could be two of you splitting apart just because both of you are falling for the only hot girl of your project/department. Although this one seems to be fair enough after all everything is fair in LOVE!!!
But what ever be the case you end up hurting your self.

Coming to broken relationships, it always hurt to see you’re EX doing well without you. Well I might sound ‘MEAN’ but tell me any other way to put it across. I am not saint.You had a great relationship with your GF/BF and now they are not in your life due to any X, Y, Z reason. You feel low when you see them doing great with some one ELSE and believe me it hurts most when you haven’t been able to pick yourself since the breakup and your partner is going places. I have seen people scrapping their social networking account, changing companies/cities to come out of it and almost end up screwing their lives and career. Love is still a matter of great emotional distress to us if it doesn’t turn out the way it is meant to be!!

Hope till now you have realized the value of keeping distance. No, I am not asking you to stop getting into relationships!! That would be the worst advice I have every given and you have ever taken. Only thing I am asking you to do is to keep a comfortable/manageable distance in your relationships without letting other person know. Be mentally prepared that things can go wrong. Have faith in your abilities. And once it happens with you just try to think from other person perspective that why it has happened to you, you would be able to cope it better. Always thinking from your perspective is not going to help you in this regard. Well easier said than done!!!
The day you will master this art, that very day you will end up being an emotional fool. Though I am still waiting for that day to come for me :).


“Jo bas chalta tu duniya chheen leti jaan meri,
Hum tu bus zinda kyunki Zeeney ka hunar rakhte hain”





PS: Both pieces of poetry are not mine